It is true, out here it seems like some cannot live without drama, using catastrophic scenarios , never ending situations, impossible scenarios to keep the attention on them regardless of any one else need.

Constant need to keep others informed on their never ending problem is a problem in itself. We think at times we hope that people like that in our lives actually want help, an ending solution to their problem, surprisingly enough that is usually not the case, some people are addicted to problems and complaining about that , getting a possible solution can actually be terrifying for them , why you may ask, well the attention will be remove from them, we want them to thrive but they are not looking to thrive, they are looking to be in the spotlight with everyone being attentive to their needs and troubles regardless of your personal needs or troubles.

People like that are energy drainers, the conversation is either about their issue or their triumph with little space for you to share anything about your life with them. Just when you get to perhaps squeeze in an anecdote of a recent event in your life you get interrupted by their lack of respect for you , you notice them looking at their phone or pointing something out for you to shift the conversation.
It is sad , it is manipulative, its draining, is toxic, it never seems to end.

Shaking their head like a chicken, so much trouble in their lives , how can they live like that, here let me present to you a solution , is only an opportunity for them to have content on you to go and discuss your view of their issue with another member in their audience. How dare you think I should do that they scream back at you, and suddenly your attemp to help them is viewed as you being incosiderate, cold , selfish, so what do you suggest then? should we seat here and stare at your life and join hands with you with your trouble while disregarding every possible solution there is to solve your problem , let us keep you seating in the altar of the need to have drama. You are never OK, even if God says you are OK.

If only this type of manipulation wouldn’t affect me, throughout the years I’ve noticed how much it does, I guess as we get older I noticed that this type of manipulative behavior, to be near someone who is always having problem that they do not want to fix just want to complain about it has affected me and the years have passed and I cannot believe it took this long for me to know it is all a manipulative tactic.

Now I found myself praying for this stronghold to be remove, I don’t even know if it is a stronghold but it is something , maybe many things, codependency ? when did it began, who is at fault here? many things I can think of, growing up in a single parent home? divorce kills and not just a marriage, jealousy? maybe , it can also be my calm personality, I strive to find peace and stability, some people avoid that at all cost, and if you have that and they don’t , be ready to be bombarded with their problems just so you know that they struggle not that they actually need your help, how can they ever need your help since everything you do for them is done wrong, is just a way to get more content about you to keep the slandering campaign going for them.

I pray for deliverance…..